I never expected a casual meal with my cousin Chima to double as a therapy session—but hey, life’s funny like that. We were halfway through a generous plate of jollof rice, trading banter and low-key rants about work and goals. Nothing heavy. Then Chima dropped a line so sharp it cut through every excuse I’d been clinging to:
_“Maybe the problem isn’t what you’re doing—it’s what you believe about yourself while you’re doing it.”_
The spoon hovered mid-air. My brain hit pause. That one sentence stuck harder than the rice to the pot.
What Shifted for Me:
I’ve always thought pushing through would be enough—force the hustle, power past doubt. But I realized I was sprinting in circles, carrying beliefs that weren’t serving me. That convo cracked something open:
- Setbacks stopped feeling like indictments; they became signposts.
- I started checking my mindset before chasing milestones.
- I swapped “I’m not sure I can…” with “Let’s see how I can.”
Emotional Snapshot:
I won’t lie—it was uncomfortable. A part of me wanted to laugh it off, distract with another joke, maybe go for seconds. But something told me to sit with it. That moment pushed me from autopilot to intention. It was quiet, simple, and exactly what I needed.
Final Reflection:
Now, whenever I hit a wall, I ask myself, _“What story am I telling myself about this moment?”_ Most times, the shift I need isn’t in my routine—it’s in my headspace.
Call to Action:
Have you had one of those conversations that hit unexpectedly deep? Drop it in the comments. Let’s make this space a little more honest, one chat at a time.